New Year’s Eve has never been my favorite holiday. So much expectation for night to change to day. Not sure what the big fuss is about. Unless we are changing centuries then that’s more of a big deal. Although, I seem to remember there was tremendous hype about Y2K and our technology not being able to handle the change to 2000, and the warning of the world ending. That thankfully fizzled down to nothing much. And the new century came in pretty quietly.
I remember when I was younger and it seemed very important to be somewhere at the stroke of midnight. To have someone to kiss when the clock struck midnight. Not someone special, just someone, anyone. The thought struck me as backwards.
Why would you want to begin a bright shiny new year tainted by playing tonsil hockey with someone you didn’t care about? Yuck.(Tweet it!)
And as for resolutions, I am not going to make any. I resolved a long time ago to be the best person I can all the time. Not just in the month of January. To be true to myself. My ex-husband and I got divorced because we didn’t bring out the best in one another. We had different plans for our lives. I could never be the person he wanted me to be or thought I was. So now we try to be the best parents we can together. We try to be friends who actually care about one another despite the pressures to the contrary.
My journey continues
To be of help and service to the people I love. In making my living, I want to contribute in a positive way to the world around me, whether through my coaching services, teaching, or sharing my thoughts communicating through this blog in an honest way. I want to make amends when I have hurt or wronged someone and to leave the world a better place for having been here. I try not to be cynical even in a world gone mad.
The ten pounds I lose or not isn’t going to make much difference globally. The time and money I contribute to charity might in some small way. The example I set for my children is a challenge but a reminder that we are all human. And most of the time, people are doing the best they can with the information they have and the resources that are available to them at the time.
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Last year, I was with a dear friend dancing in her new home when the new year arrived. We blasted the music we like and drank good red wine. Champagne is delicious and can cause headaches. Our children had their own plans. Our dancing and singing and general merriment embarrasses them. We drank to the New Year and the power of friendship. We raised a glass to the people we have lost, and to the bitter-sweetness of the future. The men in our lives are invited, but they don’t dance. And that’s okay. We kissed them later.
And what will the new year bring?
I am going to chose cautious optimism at the resiliency of human beings. And that more people move toward light than darkness. What are you going to choose?
Be kind to yourself.
