On living alone and moving house after divorce

On living alone and moving house after divorce

I am moving in two weeks. I have 70 flat boxes leaning against the wall in the kitchen. I’ve only packed 10 of them. And I can’t seem to move forward. The house I’m currently renting was sold, so the move isn’t altogether voluntary. It’s the house I moved to after my...
Loneliness and being alone: how to tell the difference

Loneliness and being alone: how to tell the difference

Almost every single one of my clients asks at some point, “Why is it so hard to be alone?” But I think this question is confusing. Most all my clients have chosen to end a relationship that was destructive to their self-esteem, their self-worth, their children, or...
From breaking down to breaking free

From breaking down to breaking free

It began with a stomach ache. When my inside was calling out to my outside to stop, and listen, and figure it out. I had been having headaches for years. It seemed to happen after every cold and every flight. Sinus infections, antibiotics, sinus infections, another...
Moving Forward and the Magic of Tidying Up

Moving Forward and the Magic of Tidying Up

My landlords just sold the house I’ve been living in for the last six years. The first place I lived after my divorce. My moving out date is July 1st. And as I look forward with relocation looming, I started to think about getting rid of things I no longer want or...
On Mother’s Day after divorce

On Mother’s Day after divorce

All holidays are a little more challenging after divorce. Anniversaries are difficult. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day too – especially if your children are too young to manage breakfast in bed or even know the days of the week. Or put crayon to paper instead of...
On the power of long-term friendships after divorce

On the power of long-term friendships after divorce

Traveling isn’t any fun anymore. The world is a scary place and the security checks and long lines in Passport control (although necessary for our safety) are tough on the traveler. Being compressed into a germ-filled, flying tin can for hours on end doesn’t add to...