Spring cleaning after divorce
I was thinking about spring this morning. The sky was a deep blue, cloudless. It was still cold, but some brave flowers were blooming and when I stood directly in the sun, I felt warm. For a minute. Then I hurried across the campus where I teach to grab a hot cup of...
How to navigate inequity and motherhood after divorce
I’ve been thinking a lot about equity lately, and the inequity of divorce. About how my generation is less well off than my parent’s generation. And about the fact that I live in a rented house and drive a beat up, 8-year-old car. The same car that both my kids...
Five ways to be your own Valentine after divorce
It’s that time of year again. Time to celebrate the holiday that lines the pockets of card companies, florists, over-priced (and overcrowded!) restaurants, and chocolatiers. It’s also the time of year when you can start to feel that being alone is somehow worse on...
How to avoid disastrous dating after divorce
People often ask me when I started dating after divorce. It’s a hard question to answer. I usually start by saying that “dating sucks!!” at any age. I watched my teenagers go through the drama and heartbreak after my divorce and had no desire to jump into another...